These days, marriage is not held in particularly high regard by our culture. Divorce rates are incredibly high. Many people have no problem living together without being married. Adultery and infidelity are commonly celebrated in television shows and movies.
It can be easy to forget just how sacred marriage is. The truth is that marriage was created by God and it is incredibly important to Him. It cannot and should not be discarded or treated lightly.
Because marriage is so sacred to God, there are many Bible verses about marriage. Within the pages of Scripture, you’ll find the secrets to a joyful, God-honoring marriage.
And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” (Genesis 2:18)
Marriage is a wonderful gift from God. God looked upon Adam and saw that he needed a companion and a helper. Eve would help Adam to reflect the image of God and to serve God.
Pastor Adrian Rogers said:
"Who is better, men or women? The answer to that question is “Yes!” A man is infinitely superior to a woman at being a man, and a woman is infinitely superior to a man at being a woman. Men and women are different—by design. Neither is superior to the other, but they are very, very different."
This is a beautiful reminder that husbands and wives complement each other and need one another. As you reflect on this verse, think about all the wonderful ways that your spouse complements your strengths and helps you in areas of weakness. Give thanks to God for your spouse.
He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord (Proverbs 18:22)
It’s very easy to forget what a blessing it is to have a spouse. A husband or wife is a good thing. If you are married, you have obtained favor from the Lord. Yes, there are challenges to overcome and disagreements to work through. Yes, there are times when it is difficult to be married. But ultimately, marriage is a great gift from God.
Gratitude is an amazingly transformative practice. You’ll find that the more you give thanks for your spouse, the more inclined you will be to love and serve them.
Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies (Proverbs 31:10)
Do you have a virtuous wife or husband? This doesn’t mean that they are sinless or don’t have their own struggles and difficulties. It simply means that they are seeking to pursue the Lord and honor Him. It means that they desire to live in a way that glorifies God and brings Him pleasure.
You have something that is far more valuable than rubies or gold. Marriage in itself is a gift from God. Marriage to someone who is seeking the Lord is an even greater gift. You have a companion who can encourage you, pray with you, and consistently point you to God. Give thanks to God for this wonderful gift!
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them (Colossians 3:18-19).
Biblical marriage is a beautiful “dance” between the husband and wife. The husband seeks to lead his wife in God-honoring, Christlike ways. He works to sacrificially love his wife just as Christ loved the church. Day after day, he strives to point his wife to the Lord.
Speaking of the husband’s leadership, Pastor Adrian Rogers said:
Jesus never makes me do anything. And you are going to have difficulty if you take this to mean you are the boss or dictator. You’re to be the head. It's not so much a chain of command as it is a chain of responsibility. To be the head means that you accept the responsibility.
The wife, in turn, can submit to the biblical leadership of her husband. She can follow his lead as he seeks to pursue Christ. Just as the church joyfully submits to Christ, so the wife can joyfully submit to her husband’s Christ-like leadership.
In this post, we’re going to look at what God’s word has to say about the family. When you understand God’s truth and apply it within your family, you will see an amazing transformation.
Many waters cannot quench love, nor can the floods drown it. If a man would give for love all the wealth of his house, it would be utterly despised (Song of Solomon 8:6-7).
When a husband and wife love one another with biblical, Christ-like love, they are “indestructible”. Though they walk through deep waters and floods, their sacred bond cannot be broken.
In fact, trials only strengthen the bond that holds them together.
This kind of love is incredibly valuable. To have such a strong, intimate relationship is more valuable than all the wealth in the world. If you have this kind of relationship with your spouse, praise God for it. If you want your marriage to grow in this way, ask God to help you.
...walk worthy of the calling with which you were called, with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love, endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace (Ephesians 4:1-3).
These verses contain the ingredients for a happy, blessed marriage. Instead of being condescending and brash, you are humble and gentle. Instead of being quick-tempered and impatient, you are longsuffering.
Overarching all of these things is an effort to preserve the God-given unity between you and your spouse. When you and your spouse are joined together with the bond of peace, love can flourish.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her (Ephesians 5:25)
God has placed a high call upon husbands. If you are a husband, you are called to love your wife in the same way that Christ loves the church. This love is sacrificial love. It puts the good of your wife above your own good.
Notice that this love is, first and foremost, one of action. The Bible teaches that marriage is a sacrifice and commitment to the good of your spouse. That means that love is more fundamentally action than emotion. This is In sharp contrast with our culture.
Within your marriage, emotions will ebb and flow, but your commitment to sacrificially love your wife transcends emotion.
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil (1 Corinthians 13:4-5).
True, Christ-like love is the foundation of a strong marriage. Love is the glue that creates an unbreakable bond between a husband and wife. When two people truly love one another, they are longsuffering and kind toward one another.
They refuse to be envious, don’t constantly call attention to themselves, and aren’t puffed up with self-importance.
True love flees from rudeness and self-seeking. It’s not easily provoked and it always thinks the best of the other person. Every day, ask the Lord to fill you with this kind of love for your spouse.
Rather, they’re meant to direct you toward God and help you know Him more.
Ultimately, the secret to a happy marriage is to pursue God and seek to love Him with all your heart. When you delight first in God, you will also naturally delight in your spouse.
Pastor Adrian Rogers said:
My wife Joyce has always known that God is first in my life and she doesn’t mind being second. Why? Because she knows I can love her more by putting her second than I ever could by putting her first. She knows that when God is first, He’s going to make sure I treat her with the love, honor and respect she deserves and He desires.
If you’ve only been married for a month and want to lay a strong foundation for the coming years, seek the Lord with all your heart. If you’ve been married for 50 years and want to still keep growing closer together, seek the Lord with all your heart.
Remember, God loves marriage. If you pursue Him, He’ll most certainly bless you.