What Fathers Should Teach Their Children About Sex

Deuteronomy 5:18

Adrian Rogers

Sermon Overview

Scripture Passage: Deuteronomy 5:18

As the heads of the home, fathers should accept the responsibility of teaching their children to follow God’s law.

Deuteronomy 5:18 states that we should not commit adultery, yet our world has mainstreamed sexual immorality; by all appearances, it will only get worse.

Fathers are to teach their children about the facts of life—one being to remain abstinent until marriage—from the heart, in natural conversation.

The Book of Proverbs is a conversation between a wise father and his son; it is a beautiful guideline for what fathers should teach their children about sex.

First, the author of Proverbs taught his son the dangers of sexual immorality: it does not bring genuine fulfillment, and in fact, it endangers future happiness.

Proverbs 5:3-4 says, “For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil; but in the end, she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.”

The idea that sex will ultimately fulfill us is a lie from the enemy himself. It may seem old-fashioned, but we need to teach our children to keep themselves for the one they will marry because waiting proves love.

Adrian Rogers says, “Love can wait; it is lust that cannot wait. If you sacrifice the future on the altar of the immediate, you’re making a bad bargain, because you are sinning against your future happiness.”

We must also warn them that they will ultimately answer to Almighty God for the way they live. (See Proverbs 5:21.)

Fathers should also offer their children clear directions on how to live purely.

First, they must guard their company and date only in the right environments. Implore them to be careful about getting in with the wrong crowd and putting themselves in tempting situations. (See Proverbs 5:7-8.)

It is up to the father to set limits and guide children through opportunities to prove their trust.

Finally, fathers must point out the delights of keeping God’s Word.

There is no greater joy than the joy of a Christian home, no security like a lasting marriage, and no satisfaction like a loving mate. God gives good things to His children, if only they will wait for them.

Apply it to your life

Fathers, it is up to you to teach your children the facts of life. Vitalize it, verbalize it, and visualize it, as you teach them the dangers, directions, and delights of God’s Word.