Scripture Passage: Song of Solomon 1:1-16
To be completely known and still be loved without fear of rejection is the supreme goal of marriage.
But how many marriages are on the rocks because of poor communication? According to many counselors, 100% of couples seeking marriage counseling are out of rhythm due to lack of communication.
God shows us in His Word how husbands and wives can communicate, and it is modeled in the Songs of Solomon: a book of love poems, exemplifying the music of marriage.
And as we eavesdrop on their conversation and observe the words said between these two lovers, we learn how they are used, and how they are received.
Our words sustain our marriages. Our words repair hurt feelings. Our words grow love.
The problem here is that we believe words of love flow out of feeling. But most of the time, it is really that feeling that flows out of words.
Adrian Rogers says, “We need to work on this thing of intimacy in marriage, and I’ll tell you why. It gives an incredible freedom and it’s worth it. You’ll never arrive at perfection, but you need to make a start if you want to have a happy home.”
There is always room to improve communication as husband and wife. If you do not communicate, your marriage will disintegrate. The music of marriage is worth finding the rhythm.
Do you need to work on your communication skills with your spouse? Of course! If you aren’t progressing, you are regressing. Talk with your spouse. Watch your words carefully. Pray for wisdom to learn what he or she is feeling, as well as the patience to honor them as you both work toward completely knowing and loving each other, without the fear of rejection.