Should I go back to my husband?

The marriage covenant is the most sacred relationship we can enjoy on earth. It is a gift from God and I am always grieved when I hear of it being broken. In this case, you are burdened with two extremely difficult issues at the same time—the first being forgiveness and the second being divorce.

In John 8:11 Jesus says to the adulteress “Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more.” Jesus’ forgiveness is conditioned on repentance; a change of heart and behavior. 1 John 1:9 tells us that confession of sin comes before forgiveness and cleansing. Has your husband truly changed through a personal relationship with Christ? Is he brokenhearted over what he has done to you and his family? Prayerfully ask God to reveal this to you.

As for divorce, Malachi 2:16 says that God “hates” divorce. Adultery is the only reason that it may ever be permitted (Matthew 19:9). According to God’s Word, you have the grounds to divorce. After all efforts towards reconciliation have been exhausted, divorce is permitted, but never mandated.

You have the difficult decision. Forgiveness and concern for your physical safety can coexist. Only God knows if you are still at risk. Ask God to give you the wisdom that only He can give (Proverbs 9:10).

Taken from Adrian Rogers' weekly newspaper column. Used by permission. 2001, The Commercial Appeal.