“And the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.’ Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name.”
God’s plan for marriage is one plus one equals one. “Two . . . become one flesh” (Matthew 19:5), and “What God has joined together, let not man separate” (Matthew 19:6). The Bible says, “And they were both naked . . . and were not ashamed” (Genesis 2:25). What does that mean? It means they were so unified that there was no shame and no intimidation. They were willing and able to share everything.
There is no way you can win in a war with your mate. Why? Because you and your mate are one. And if you damage him or her, you don’t win, you lose. You are one flesh. A man at war with his wife is at war with himself. Any woman at war with her husband is at war with herself. Jesus alone can build the homes we need. Jesus is the greatest home builder; Satan is the greatest home wrecker.
Pray and ask God to help you work through conflict in a way that makes much of Him and His grace.