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Spouse Abuse

Spouse Abuse

This question, unfortunately, is on the minds of many women across our country. Some cultures actually excuse and condone violence against women and children. But let me assure you, it is a despicable and cowardly act.

Many times an abused woman endures for the sake of the children. Though it may sound noble, it teaches little boys that it is acceptable to batter women. It also teaches little girls to tolerate and expect abuse in a relationship. Who wins? No one.

Furthermore, an abusive husband rarely stops with his wife, but often mistreats his children.

Does this mean that a woman must divorce an abusive husband? No, but neither is she courageous to remain in a dangerous situation.

Fleeing danger and divorce are not the same thing. God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16), but encourages us to flee danger, just as Joseph and Mary did after the birth of Jesus (Matthew 2:13).

Moreover, leaving a dangerous home does not have to be permanent. Joseph took his family to Egypt to flee danger, but he also returned when the danger subsided (Matthew 2:19-22).

The goal of fleeing should not be escape, but healing and eventual reconciliation. A godly woman considers the welfare of her children, but also the welfare of her spouse (1 Corinthians 7:16). A woman's prayerful and humble intentions may lead her family to Christ (1 Peter 3:1-7).

" Her children will rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her" (Proverbs 31:28).

Taken from Adrian Rogers' weekly newspaper column. Used by permission. � 2001, The Commercial Appeal.

Posted by dave hare at 12:00 AM