Loneliness is one of the most difficult things to go through. You feel like no one understands what you’re going through.
The feeling of loneliness is also complex. You may have experienced a certain event that triggered this emotion, or you may not know why you feel so alone. This isolating feeling can be very painful and hard to describe to others.
God recognizes that His creation is built with the need to commune with others. Our God considered our need for companionship as early as Adam and Eve. Not all loneliness is centered around romantic relationships, however. Even people in strong loving marriages may sometimes feel lonely.
If this is how you’re feeling, there are Bible verses for loneliness that can help ease some of your pain. There are many people who have experienced this pain and have written about it throughout the Bible. There are also many verses that point to God’s deep and unending love for us -- even if we struggle to feel it at times.
If you’re currently feeling the pain of loneliness, here is a collection of Bible verses for loneliness to help offer you some relief.
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Do not leave me nor forsake me, O God of my salvation. When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take care of me (Psalm 27:9-10).
There may come a time when even those close to you disappoint you. Even the best relationships can be strained, and when that happens you may feel acutely lonely.
But God will never disappoint you. He will never forsake you, never let you down, never leave you. Unlike humans, He is not fickle. He loves you with an everlasting, unbreakable love. God will always be with you, and even though you may be disappointed by people, He will constantly take care of you.
For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord (Romans 8:38-39).
One of the great causes of loneliness is being separated from love. When you believe that no one loves you, it causes a deep, profound sense of loneliness.
If you are in Christ, absolutely nothing can cut you off from God’s love. God loves you with an absolutely indestructible love, and that deep love will never end. Not even death itself can separate you from God’s profound love.
As you struggle with loneliness, draw near to God and warm your heart with His love. Corrie Ten Boom famously said, “There is no pit so deep, that God’s love is not deeper still.”
If you feel like you are in the pit of loneliness, know that you are not alone. God is in the “pit” with you.
The Lord will guide you continually,
And satisfy your soul in drought,
And strengthen your bones;
You shall be like a watered garden,
And like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail. (Isaiah 58:11)
There may be times in your life when you will feel deep sadness and sorrow. Times when it feels like things are crushing you to the point where you feel you can bear no more.
It may be that even your closest family and friends don’t understand your feelings. They may not understand why you’re experiencing grief, or they may not know the right things to say to bring you comfort.
Though these valleys can feel like long stretches of time, the Bible, again and again, reassures us that God is with us. Even in the times when we feel lonely and isolated. Isaiah 58:11 says that God is guiding us continually, and when our souls feel like they’re in a drought, He will satisfy us.
The imagery here is beautiful. Maybe there have been times in your life that you have felt so much despair that your soul felt dry and wasted. Imagine now a God who offers water to restore your soul and help it to flourish once again.
All of us struggle with negative emotions and feelings from time to time. We’re going to look at what God has to say about our negative emotions and feelings.
Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. (Galatians 6:2)
One of the beautiful blessings of having a community in Christ is being able to share your pain and suffering with other members of the body. If you’re feeling lonely or isolated, there are people in your Christian network who are there to help lift the burden.
There may be someone you know that you can reach out to and share your feelings with. They may not have all the answers, but they can be there to pray and care for you. It may be that the person you reach out to has also felt the way you’re feeling now.
Even if you’re not able to fully share your deepest thoughts or feelings, just letting others know that you need their prayer can help ease your loneliness.
Because of the sound of my groaning
My bones cling to my skin.
I am like a pelican of the wilderness;
I am like an owl of the desert.
I lie awake,
And am like a sparrow alone on the housetop. (Psalm 102: 5-7)
Loneliness often convinces us that we’re totally alone in the world and there is no one who can relate to our suffering. If that’s how you’re feeling, know that you are not alone. Many people around the world are feeling or have felt the way you’re feeling now. If you look in the Bible you will also find God’s people living through deep periods of loneliness and sadness.
The author of Psalm 102 paints a picture of someone who is experiencing deep sorrow. The header above the psalm states:
"A Prayer of the afflicted, when he is overwhelmed and pours out his complaint before the Lord."
The writer even describes themselves as “a sparrow alone on the housetop.” Sometimes taking the time to realize that you’re not alone in loneliness can feel like a salve to the soul.
But the good news is it doesn’t stop there. The Psalmist then points to God -- which we can look at in the verse below.
This will be written for the generation to come,
That a people yet to be created may praise the Lord.
For He looked down from the height of His sanctuary;
From heaven the Lord viewed the earth,
To hear the groaning of the prisoner,
To release those appointed to death
God is not just living above us and ignoring our pain. God hears us in our affliction. This verse points out that even though God sits in the height of His sanctuary, He still hears our groaning. He is ready to help release us from the pain and suffering we’re experiencing.
For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.
God looked down at us from His height of sanctuary and He heard our cries. But He didn’t stop there.
We have a God who came to Earth and experienced the same things that we experience now. Jesus felt times of loneliness just as we feel them at times. There were times when he felt sorrow and times when He felt pain.
We have a God that knows exactly what you’re going through -- and He is our sanctuary when we have struggles or sadness of any kind.
There is no certain cure for loneliness. It’s something that you may feel for a period of time before you experience relief. Use the Bible verses for loneliness listed above to strengthen you.
If your feelings of loneliness persist, reach out to people you know and love. Their words may not always be perfect, but allow them to wrap their love around you. Ask for prayer. Speak to your pastor. Communicate your feelings to your spouse or family. You may also want to speak to a trained counselor who can help you identify where your feelings are coming from and offer solutions to help.
Know that even though you may feel alone at the present, you have a God who loves you deeply and cares about your affliction. Just as Romans 8:38-39 describes above, there’s nothing that can separate you from the powerful and everlasting love of God. Even though you may feel alone, God’s love for you is steadfast.