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Abuse | Biblical Issues | Christian Life | Divorce | Ethical Issues | Family Issues | God's Will | Government and Politics | Holidays | Life After Death | Marriage | National Issues | Parenting | Prophecy | Salvation | Social Issues | Suffering / Adversity | Witnessing

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We hope you find these responses taken from the messages of Adrian Rogers encouraging and beneficial in your daily walk.


Abuse

Family Child Abuse
I was molested by my father as a child. Now that I'm married I have great anxiety about intimacy with my husband. Despite knowing of this experience he is very patient and loving, but has difficulty talking about this. Do you have any guidance?

Child Abuse
I've had a troubled life, partially because male relatives molested me when I was young. Now that I have young daughters, those same relatives may be coming to visit. Should I alert my other family members to stop the visit and protect my daughters, or should I let a "sleeping dog lie"?

Spouse Abuse
If God doesn't want people to get divorced, would He want a wife to stay married to a husband who was abusive to her and the children?

Biblical Issues

What does it mean to have an advocate in Jesus Christ?
What does it mean to have an advocate in Jesus Christ?

Is there historical evidence of Jesus's life?
I saw a TV show that discounted almost everything the Bible says about Jesus. It concluded that Biblical accounts of Jesus are mostly legend and myth. Is there evidence that the Bible is historically accurate and that Jesus did the things documented in the Bible?

Is the King James Version the only real version?
A friend of mine recently told me that the King James Version of the Bible was the only "real" version. He also mentioned that modern translations were perversions of God's Word. Should I only read the KJV Bible?

What was the reason for the cross?
I was talking with an unbeliever the other day and he asked me, "What was the reason for the cross?" I couldn't believe it, but I got a little stumped. Can you help?

Is the Bible culturally outdated in regards to fashion?
I've read in the Bible that "A woman shall not wear anything that pertains to a man, nor shall a man put on a woman's garment" (Deuteronomy 22:5). It seems that people can wear anything these days. Is the Bible culturally outdated?

Are people punished for the sins of their fathers?
Deuteronomy 24:16 mentions that a person shall be punished for his own sin. Numbers 14:18, though, suggests that children will be punished for the sins of their fathers. Do these verses contradict each other?

What evidence is there that the Bible is in fact God's Word?
What evidence is there that the Bible is in fact God's Word?

Christian Life

How do we give thanks in all circumstances?
What does Paul mean when he tells us to give thanks in all circumstances?

Can we achieve holiness if we really wanted to?
Throughout the Old Testament the Israelites are blessed and cursed to the degree that they obeyed and followed God. It seemed that they could be completely blessed if only they had always chosen to follow God. This makes me wonder, could we achieve holiness if we really wanted to?

Can a Christian be a social drinker?
Do you believe that the Christian who is a social drinker is living in the "suburbs" of sin?

Why should I fear God?
I've heard that I should fear God. If God is so wonderful, why should I fear him? If I do fear him, what good will it do me?

What are some of the fruits of brokenness?
You often talk of brokenness, what are some of the fruits of brokenness?

Is there only one right denomination?
Is there only one right denomination?

Divorce

Can I date and possibly marry a divorced person?
I am almost 30, have no children and have never been married. I desire to find a spouse, but most people who are single at my age have been divorced. What are your thoughts on dating and possibly marrying people who are divorced?

What does the Bible say about divorce and remarriage?
My first marriage ended in divorce, and then I remarried. I now understand that my divorce and remarriage was a mistake, and that the Bible teaches that God hates divorce. Does God want me to leave my second husband and return to my original spouse? What are the Bible's guidelines regarding divorce and remarriage, to either the same person or somebody different?

What is our responsibility as in-laws?
Our daughter and son-in-law, who have a young child, may be considering divorce. Our son-in-law wants us to intervene in their arguments on his behalf. We worry that this would alienate our daughter, who has never liked our advice. What can we do?

Should I go back to my husband?
I left my husband of 36 years. He often abusedme, and sometimes the children, and I recently discovered that he gave me two sexually transmitted diseases that came from an adulterous relationship. I feel I have forgiven him, but want a divorce. My family and minister, though, tell me that if I don't go back I haven't truly forgiven him. Is this true?

Ethical Issues

Do animals have rights?
I recently read a story about an animal rights group. They advocated all kinds of things, including violence, to protect animals, claiming that we have no right to exploit them. Are they correct in believing that animals have rights?

What does the Bible teach about gambling?
What does the Bible teach about gambling? Does this include investing in the stock market?

What does the Bible say about same-sex "marriages"?
We're seeing a real push today to legalize and legitimize same-sex "marriages." What does the Bible say about this?

What do you think about cloning?
What do you think about cloning? Do you think scientists are playing "God" when they clone?

Is it okay to speak like that when it is commonly accepted?
I've noticed that common language has gotten much worse in the past several years. It's not just filthy language, although there is plenty of that. It's how people speak harshly to one another in general. Is it okay to speak like that when it is commonly accepted?

Is it okay to call psychics?
A lot of people seem to call those psychic phone numbers and read horoscopes. Is there any evidence that you can tell the future through these, and is it okay according to the Bible?

Is capital punishment contrary to the word of God?
If the Bible says, "Thou shalt not kill," is capital punishment contrary to the word of God?

Family Issues

Should I go back to work?
My husband is a godly man. He has worked hard, while I have stayed at home with our two children, ages 15 and 11.We have been financially blessed. My husband now he thinks that the kids are old enough for me to go back to work to pay off our home and be "set for life" in five years. I am willing to sacrifice for my family, but would it sacrifice my family?

How do I handle the neighbors?
We are having problems with our neighbors. They go to our church and act "churchy," but they have a terrible home life. They both engage in rampant infidelity and suspicious things happen at their home. Their kids do things with my kids, but I'm afraid to let them go over there. What should I do?

Can blended families work?
I am very close to a single person with young children. They are thinking about getting married to another person in the same situation. I know blended families are commonplace these days, but is it advisable to put families together like this?

Are fathers necessary?
There have been a lot of reports lately about families, and how fathers are not really needed. Once babies are conceived are fathers important or are we just fine without them?

God's Will

How can I discern God's reasons?
I am having a lot of adversity in my career. Is there some way to discern if these are obstacles from God to prepare me for something in the future, or if God has placed roadblocks because I am not following His plan for my life?

How do I discover God's will?
Everything seems to be going against me these days. I can't seem to make sense of what's happening in my life or in the world. How do I discover God's will?

How can I learn what God wants me to do with my life?
I'm a new Christian and I'm also thinking about my future. I'm just a sophomore right now in high school, but I want to know how I can learn what God wants me to do with my life?

Government and Politics

What are my rights as a Christian in the political process?
I hear a lot about people's rights these days. What are my rights as a Christian in the political process and governmental affairs?

Should pastors influence their congregations in politics?
Is it a pastor's responsibility to influence his congregation in political elections?

If God is sovereign, why should I vote?
If God is sovereign, why should I vote?

Do Christians need to be involved in government?
Many people tell us, "Christians should stay out of politics." Do we need to be involved in government?

Holidays

What should we focus on during Christmas?
Christmas can be so hectic that we forget the true meaning of Christmas. What is the most important thing we should focus on during this time of the year with our family and friends?

What do you suggest we tell our kids about Santa Claus?
As parents of young children we are sometimes confused about what to tell our kids about Santa Claus. What do you suggest?

Is it okay to splurge every year around the holidays?
As I was doing some Christmas shopping I noticed people buying a lot of high-priced items. It also looked like many people couldn't afford what they were buying. Is it okay to splurge every year around the holidays?

How can I simplify my life during the Christmas season?
During the Christmas season, my life seems to get more complicated than ever. What can I do to help simplify my life during this time?

How can I be thankful when things seem to go so wrong?
Pastor Rogers, I know Thanksgiving is supposed to be a time of thankfulness. But because of some very hard circumstances in my life, I am struggling with being thankful right now. How can I be thankful when things seem to go so wrong?

Life After Death

What happens to those who die without Jesus?
What happens to those who die without Jesus?

What actually happens when a person dies?
What actually happens when a person dies? Some people believe that you can communicate with the dead. Others believe that the spirit of the dead remains with us. What does the Bible say about death?

What is heaven like?
My father, who was young and healthy, recently died unexpectedly. He was a godly man and a loving father. I have every confidence he is in heaven. However, I miss him more each day. What is he doing in heaven and will he know me when I see him one day?

Marriage

What does submission in marriage mean?
The scripture says that a woman's desire shall be to her husband and that he is to have the rule over her. It also says a woman is to be subject to her husband in all things. Does this mean that he is to have control over her every thought and action?

Should premarital counseling be mandatory?
I am considering getting married. Do you think that premarital counseling should be mandatory?

How should my spouse and I handle disagreements?
How should my spouse and I handle disagreements?

How can I be a better husband?
I know it's asking a lot for you to answer this question briefly, but if you could give me some advice about being a better husband, I'd appreciate it.

Do I have fighting with my spouse to look forward to?
I have been married a very short time. I'm discouraged about how some people talk about fighting with their spouses. Maybe I'm still in the "honeymoon" stage, but I don't ever want to fight with my spouse. Is that what I have to look forward to?

National Issues

What can we do to help bring our nation back to God?
What can we do to help bring our nation back to God?

Is patriotism going to solve the problems in our country?
What about all of the newfound patriotism? Is it right to be so patriotic, and is patriotism going to solve the problems in our country? I just don't think it's enough to be patriotic.

Parenting

Should we keep our daughter from certain books?
My wife and I disagree over what books we should let our daughter read. I feel that, with our involvement, she can distinguish between fantasy and reality when it comes to things like sorcery and witchcraft. My wife wants to keep her from certain kids' books. Who is right?

Is it too late to try and patch things up with my children?
My children are older and don't have a very good relationship with me. I've recently realized that I was not a very good father for them when they were young. Is it too late to try and patch things up?

How can I nurture a Christian environment in my home?
How can I nurture a Christian environment in my home?

How can I not grow up to be like my parents?
I am afraid of growing up to be like my parents. They have done a lot of things that I would be ashamed to do. I know that personalities are partially inherited and it makes me feel destined to be like them. Is there anything I can do?

Any advice on spanking your child versus not spanking?
I've heard so many conflicting opinions about punishing children, mainly spanking versus not spanking. Do you have any advice on punishment?

What kind of future will our children have?
My wife and I are wondering what kind of future our children will have in today's world. What can we do to prepare them for what lies ahead?

Prophecy

Where does the United States fit into end-times prophecy?
Where does the United States fit into end-times prophecy?

Is it true that the word "Rapture" is not in the Bible?
Is it true that the word "Rapture" is not in the Bible?

Can anyone be saved after the Rapture?
Can anyone be saved after the Rapture?

Salvation

How do you give your life to Jesus?
How do you give your life to Jesus?

How do I know I'm saved?
How do I know I'm saved?

Can I lose my salvation?
I believe that Jesus died for my sins. I've been told, though, that I can lose the salvation that I have. If I can lose my salvation, how can I ever live in peace?

Is salvation in Jesus Christ the only way to heaven?
Is salvation in Jesus Christ the only way to heaven?

Social Issues

Why does the social turmoil in this world never cease?
Why does the social turmoil in this world never cease?

What does the Bible say about tattoos and piercings?
I see a lot of teenage kids, both male and female, running around with tattoos and pierced ears, noses, etc. It all seems wrong to me, but what does the Bible say about this kind of behavior?

Should we just look the other way at lying?
A major magazine ran a cover story that discussed the rampant dishonesty in our culture. I was glad it brought up the subject, but it just confused me by seemingly excusing lying. Since everybody does it, should we just look the other way?

Suffering / Adversity

Why do bad things happen to God's people?
Why do bad things happen to God's people?

Why am I going through so much pain right now?
I try to be a good person and I have high ambitions for myself. But lately I have really been going through trials. I realize I need to face challenges in my life, but I can't understand why I am going through so much right now.

How can pain be a gift?
How can pain be a gift?

Witnessing

What is appropriate in the workplace in witnessing?
I want my coworkers to become Christians. But, at the same time I want to make sure I don't cross the lines and get myself fired for witnessing when I should be working. Do you have any suggestions?

Do you have any suggestions to help us bring our loved ones to Christ?
This summer, my family and I are going to be seeing family we don't see very often. Do you have any suggestions to help us bring our loved ones to Christ?

Basic factors for sharing our faith?
What are some basic factors with which we need to equip ourselves for sharing our faith?

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