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Has The Nuclear Family Bombed?

Exodus 20:12
(RA-1854, Program: 4217, Air date: 10.29.17)
Commandment #5 – “Honor father and mother”

  1. INTRODUCTION
    1. Exodus 20:12 represents the first commandment with promise.
      1. We are commanded to honor our parents that we may live long in the land that the Lord has given us.
    2. There are many in today’s society who are trying to redefine the values we hold.
    3. Many are attacking the values of our Christian families and the nuclear family itself.
    4. Why did God give us families?
      1. For living.
        1. The family unit is a little part of the Garden of Eden that we have carried with us.
        2. Children need families.
      2. For learning.
        1. The Ten Commandments were given primarily to the home.
        2. We are to teach the Ten Commandments in our homes.
      3. For lasting.
        1. Exodus 20:12
        2. When the home begins to decay, the nation begins to decay.
    5. It is the parent’s responsibility to teach children to honor father and mother.
    6. The message today will help us learn how to live in such a way that our children can give us honor.
      1. No parent or child is perfect.
      2. Since Adam and Eve, no parent has ever been perfect.
      3. As parents, we cannot guarantee how our children will turn out.
        1. Proverbs 22:6
          1. The book of Proverbs is a book of proverbs, not promises.
          2. A proverb is a general principle that when generally applied brings a general result.
        2. God gave all children a will.
          1. This is why we should not set goals for our children.
          2. We have desires for our children; we set goals for ourselves.
        3. We should not pretend to be perfect.
          1. Our children already know that we are not perfect.
          2. They don’t want to know that we’re perfect; they want to know that we are real.
    7. How do we become parents that children can honor?
  2. BY LOVING OUR CHILDREN
    1. Love is not giving our children what they want but giving them what they need.
    2. How do we love our children?
      1. By touching and hugging them.
        1. Luke 15:20
        2. When parents are affectionate toward their children, and are properly affectionate toward each other, it can help protect their children from sexually immoral relationships.
        3. Children need to understand that in order to be huggable and lovable, that they do not have to be into sexual intimacy.
      2. By blessing them.
        1. By simply, lovingly telling our children that we bless them in the name of the Lord.
      3. By comforting them.
        1. When little children hurt, their pain is real.
      4. By listening to them.
        1. One of the finest forms of communication is saying nothing, but simply listening.
      5. Steadfastly and consistently.
        1. Children go through many different stages.
        2. We need to love them and show them love consistently.
      6. We need to love them through our prayers.
        1. We must prayer for our children by name and pray for them often.
  3. BY LIFTING OUR CHILDREN
    1. Wise encouragement is better than lavish praise.
      1. Colossians 3:21
    2. Praise is not wrong or bad, but children also need encouragement like plants need water.
      1. Children need to be encouraged over and over again.
    3. As parents, we need to learn the difference between praise and encouragement.
      1. Praise says that you are good because you did something good.
        1. For instance, praising a child because they made good grades.
        2. Again, there is nothing wrong with praise.
        3. We do not need to only praise children without encouraging them.
      2. Encouragement values the child, not primarily for what the child achieved, but for who the child is who is achieving the task.
  4. BY LIMITING OUR CHILDREN
    1. It takes firm restrictions to set children free.
    2. As parents, it is our responsibility to liberate them by limiting them.
    3. 1 Samuel 3:13
      1. Eli did not set limits for his children.
    4. In the Garden of Eden, God gave Adam and Eve everything they needed, but He also set some limits.
    5. When we set reasonable limits for our children, our children will test these restrictions over and over again.
      1. If those limits move after being tested, the child will have no security.
    6. Josh McDowell has stated that rules without relationship bring rebellion.
      1. It is important for our children to know that we are setting limits because we love them.
    7. If we do not place limitations or restrictions upon our children, then it implies to them rejection.
    8. Setting rules is one of the toughest and most needful things we are to do for our children.
    9. If we do not set limits and standards for our children, someone else will.
    10. Psalm 11:3
  5. BY LEADING OUR CHILDREN
    1. Proverbs 22:6
    2. To teach our children without training them is to fail in our task.
    3. We need to show our children how to live and love God, not just tell them.
    4. We need to compliment character more than talent.
      1. Show them and train them how to be:
        1. Content
        2. Courageous
        3. Courteous
        4. Discerning
        5. Fair
        6. Friendly
        7. Generous
        8. Gentle
        9. Helpful
        10. Honest
        11. Humble
        12. Kind
        13. Obedient
        14. Orderly
        15. Patient
        16. Persistent
        17. Self-controlled
        18. Tactful
        19. Thankful
        20. Thrifty
        21. Wise
  6. BY LAUGHING WITH OUR CHILDREN
    1. Serious situations call for a lot of laughter.
    2. Our homes should be filled with joy and happiness.
    3. We need to learn to laugh in our homes.
    4. The Bible says many wonderful things about a merry heart.
    5. God made us in His image, and He gave us the gift of laughter.
    6. Psalm 2:4
    7. Genesis 21:6
    8. Luke 6:21
    9. Our children need to see us laugh.
    10. Our children need to see us laugh, not at our sins, but at our mistakes.
    11. We need to learn to laugh at ourselves.
    12. Let your children bring their friends over, and let your house be known as the happiest place.
    13. Our children should be able to see us laugh in times of trouble because it means that God is over it all.
  7. CONCLUSION
    1. The first step to begin to be honorable to our children is by, first of all, honoring our Heavenly Father.
    2. Do you know Jesus personally? If not, you can pray to Him today by asking Him to come into your life.
    3. Call upon Jesus today. Repent (turn) from your sins, and turn to Jesus. Ask Him to forgive you of your sins, and acknowledge Him as Lord of your life.
    4. Romans 10:9-10
    5. Romans 10:13

 

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