Pride goes before destruction,
And a haughty spirit before a fall.
In Part One of this study, we examined—
If you missed Part 1 of this study, you can go back to it and catch up if you like, before digging deeper into part 2.
You have heard the phrase “the seven deadly sins.” Surely pride is the deadliest of them all. Continuing our study, pride not only defies God…
1. Turn to Proverbs 16:5:
Everyone __________ in heart is an ______________________ to the Lord; Though they join forces, none will go unpunished.
We looked at this verse last time, but it is worth reviewing. Where is pride found? _______________________. Do you remember why pride is such an abomination to the Lord? (If not, review the previous lesson.) _______________________________
2. Turn to Proverbs 21:4:
A haughty look, a proud heart, And the plowing [evil plans/actions] of the wicked are _______.
Did you know that you can sin by a proud look? We sit in church, heady, high-minded, unbent, unbroken, arrogant. We swagger.
Pride is a part of the sin nature. It’s born in our hearts. We feel that whatever we purpose to do, we can do it ourselves. This verse shows that pride lurks in the human heart.
3. Turn to Mark 7:21-23:
For from ____________, out of the ____________ ___ ______, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lewdness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from __________ and defile a man.”
Where does pride come from? _____________________________________________. Pride defies God. Pride defiles man. It’s born into the human heart, a part of our sin nature. It’s already there on the inside and just simply comes out.
What fools we are if we allow pride to continue to have headquarters in our heart.
4. Turn to Proverbs 13:10—one of the greatest verses in the Bible:
By pride comes nothing but ____________, But with the well-advised is ______________.
Let’s examine this verse in other versions to get a 3-D view of how pride and strife are intertwined:
“By pride and insolence comes only contention.”—Amplified Bible
“Pride only leads to arguments.”—EXB
“Where there is strife, there is pride.”—NIV
“Fighting comes only from pride.”—NLV
“Pride leads to conflict.”—NLT
The Bible says that pride and conflict are inextricably woven together. Pride fuels the other sins. Why is there so much strife, hatred, and war? Why can’t we get along with one another?
5. What do you think are the sins, fueled by pride, that result in hatred, strife, and war?
_________________, __________________, __________________, ________________.
When pride puts mankind out of fellowship with God, we feel unrest within ourselves and we cannot have fellowship with our brothers and sisters.
When pride defies God and defiles man, ego is on the throne where Christ ought to be on the throne. Is there strife in your home? There’s never been an argument that was not caused by pride; never been a war not caused by pride; never been a divorce not caused by pride; never been a church fuss or a church split not caused by pride.
6. Turn to Proverbs 28:25:
He who is of a ________ ________ stirs up ________, But he who trusts in the Lord will be prospered.
Pride is one reason there is so much divorce. Another word for ego is pride. We want to be king or queen in our own little kingdom. “King Bob” and “Queen Susan” find it hard to say “I’m sorry” or admit wrong. Even when right, Pride is so careful that every one knows it is right. So you have ego against ego.
Jesus said, “A house divided against itself cannot stand.” Now suppose King Bob abdicates the throne and puts Christ on the throne of his life. And suppose Queen Susan puts Christ on the throne of her life. Then there’s one king over both thrones, and the Jesus in Susan is not going to fight the Jesus in Bob. And the Jesus in Bob is not going to fight the Jesus in Susan. When pride and ego are dethroned and Christ is enthroned, then there’s harmony in the home. Harmony and peace. Put Christ on the throne of both hearts; he’ll slay the ego, he will banish the hostility, and Jesus will make your home a Christ-filled, happy home.
It’s ironic. Pride says to the person, “You need to be lifted up. You need to be exalted. You need to be somebody. I can make you somebody.” But what pride does is destroy honor rather than bring honor.
7. Turn to Proverbs 11:2:
“When _________ _____________, then cometh ___________, but with the ____________, there is ______________.”
“Lowly here does not mean dragging the ground saying “I am a wretch.” It simply means “humility.”
The proud person wants honor, glory and praise. But the very thing that brings honor, glory and praise is not pride, but humility.
8. Turn to Proverbs 15:33:
“The _______ of the Lord is the instruction of wisdom; and before honor is _____________.”
Humility is the opposite of pride.
A CLOSER LOOK AT “THE FEAR OF THE LORD”
We have mentioned this before, but it is good to remember the true meaning of the phrase, “The fear of the Lord.” It’s a concept people sometimes misunderstand. It does not mean cowering in fear but rather reverence and awe. When you see “the fear of the Lord” in Scripture, most of the time the meaning is a holy, reverential awe of the Lord.
Do you want to be honored? Then don’t be proud, because the very thing pride seeks—honor—it’s going to lose.
9. Turn to Proverbs 18:12:
“Before destruction the heart of man is ______________, and before honor is _______________.”
Before honor is humility. God keeps saying this.
10. Turn forward to Proverbs 29:23:
“A man’s _________ shall bring him _____, but honor shall uphold the ___________ in spirit.”
The proud person wants the admiration of others…to be exalted above others. But the sad thing is, the very thing he wants, he does not gain. Rather than admiration, he gains their contempt.
This was the state of Lucifer, the fallen angel. Now consider the lowest man or woman on earth, the most humble man, the poorest creature who ever lived, uneducated, illiterate, wealthy, impoverished, who gives his heart to Jesus, who is saved. If you humble yourself like a little child and receive Jesus as your personal savior, do you know what your destiny is? To be like Jesus, to be saved, to rule and to reign with Christ on high, as you humble yourself, cry out and say, “Oh God, be merciful to me, a sinner. I repent of my sin. I receive Christ as my Lord and Savior.”
Friend, one day you will have a position in heaven that will be greater than Lucifer had before he fell. Why? Because we’ll be like Christ. The Bible says, “One day, we’re going to judge angels.” (1 Corinthians 6:3).
Lucifer was an angel. We will have an exalted place, higher than the angels, made like unto the Lord Jesus Christ, but only when we come through the gate of humility.
11. As we near the end of this study on pride, look in two more verses in Proverbs.
The Lord will ____________ the house of the __________, But He will establish the boundary of the widow.
__________ goes before _________________, And a _____________ spirit before a fall. Better to be of a ____________ spirit with the __________,Than to divide the spoil with the __________.
12. What are all these Proverbs verses (in #9, 10, and 11) saying to you? ________________________________________________________________________
The earthly ruin caused by pride takes many forms:
Lastly, Pride brings eternal ruin.
Let’s go back to the story where we began in Part One of this study—the story of the proud Pharisee.
Turn to Luke 18 and read this chapter on your own.
Two men went to the temple to pray, one a religious leader—a Pharisee—and the other a publican.
Full of pride, the Pharisee “prayed with himself.” He was just talking to himself. God didn’t hear. He began to tell God what a good boy he was.
Publicans were the social outcasts of that day. They were the basically “sell-outs”—tax collectors for Rome. Everybody hated them. But convicted of his sin, the publican fell on his knees and said, “God, be merciful to me, the sinner.” He saw himself as the chief of sinners.
Of those two, Jesus said, “I tell you, this man went home justified, rather than the other.” Two men went home that day. One went home dignified. One went home justified.
When you hear a convicting message, do you respond like the Pharisee? You say, “Lord, I do this, and I do that”? You think the gospel is for the thief, the murderer and the prostitute. You don’t think the gospel is for you.
Do you know why that Pharisee was so proud and why he prayed the way he did? He was comparing himself to other people. He said, “Lord, I thank you I’m not like others, like this publican.” But I dare you to measure yourself by Jesus Christ.
This study on PRIDE has been for the follower of Christ, but it is just as valid for you, if while taking this study you have been convicted that you are not saved.
Sin is coming short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23), not coming short of the glory of some other man. When Isaiah saw the Lord, he said, “Woe is me.” When Job saw the Lord, he said, “I abhor myself.” When Peter saw the Lord, he said, “Depart from me, Lord, for I’m a sinful man.” When Daniel saw the Lord, he said, “My comeliness is turned into corruption.”
Lay your pride in the dust. Say in your heart these words,
“When I survey the wondrous cross,
On which the prince of glory died,
My richest gain I count but loss
And pour contempt on all my pride.
Then come to Him and say, “Lord, save me.” 1 Peter 5:5 says, “God resists the proud. He gives grace to the humble.”
If you will lay your pride in the dust, repent of that independence from God, and cry out to God for mercy, I promise you on the authority of the Word of God, God’s grace will save you today. And every sin will be forgiven. Jesus Christ will come into your heart. God will give you strength you’ve never had before, and when you die, you’ll go to heaven. And you can be in the crowd that sings, “When we all get to heaven, what a day of rejoicing that will be.”